My boyfriend of over a year recently broke up with me claiming to no longer be in love with me. This comes as such a shock to me as just days earlier he was saying he was scared to lose me and how I was his world. He even wrote me a page long messege of every reason why he loved me. We had been planning on moving in together and now suddenly this happens. He says he loves me so much and cares about me more than he can explain though but I deserve better.
We've bickered a bit recently but only over petty things it would always end with us making up and laughing about it. I feel like because the honey moon phase has died down that's he's confusing that with falling out of love yet what we had was a much deeper love and not the same thrill of first meeting. We always got along like a house on fire, people envied our relationship and he always said his future lied with me.
We've both been really unhappy in our jobs and he's recently lost close family members. I feel we have both let lifes downs get in the way of us being happy as a couple. The day we broke up I asked him if he never saw me again would that make him happy? And he said don't be so bloody stupid. He didn't drop of any of my belongings so I still have to go and collect them. My mind is so confused..
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Same thing happened to me. I questioned myself for days, here's what I came up with. First, he lost close family members. That surely must have taken a toll on him. He's afraid of losing another person close to him, that's why he can get defensive. And often, getting defensive backfires and resulted in pushing away the ones who love and care for you. Since you guys have been quarreling recently, it's no surprise that now he'll try to push you away since he is afraid of losing another person, so he'll rather let you go now (and probably in his mind, he wants you to find someone better. No guy likes having their gurl quarrel with them. It makes them feel inadequate) and suffer all the pain at once. Let him have some alone time, don't question him too much, but be concerned. Tell him that you understand what he is going through, and that you do not wish to give up a future with him. Good luck dear.0
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