So we dated for 2.5 years and had an amazing relationship. We were each others first loves. A few months back I broke it off because I thought I needed to be alone to work on myself. I broke his heart. Well a few weeks later I regretted my decision and decided to give it another go with him. We acted like a couple again for about a month until he left for this music program over the summer. Before he left he told me I should take all summer to decide if I want to be in a relationship again and to make myself happy so we could be happy together. We had been chatting back and forth while he was gone but he was keeping his distance. When I came and visited him for a show he seemed very distant as well but claimed it was because he was too busy, which he really is, but it seemed like an excuse. Then when I came back and hadn't heard from him I confronted him. He told me he was too busy to "invest" and he wasn't sure what he wanted - if he wanted to be single or in a relationship. He said he didn't want to have to worry about my feelings and me being sad while he's gone for the summer. After leaving him a voice mail begging for him back, he replied with a text that said "I just don't know." After that I never replied and it's only been a week of no contact. Since then he has been posting so much on Facebook about how great his summer is and how much he loves this music program. From all of his posts it makes it seem like he's having the summer of his life. I just don't get how he could be over me so fast. Did he forget I even exist? I know he loves this music program but it feels like he's putting it in my face that he's so much better without me. Is this relationship doomed? I've been trying to move on but its hard when I keep getting reminded he his having so much fun without me:(
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He had all that time away from you to realize he didn't love you anymore, mainly because you were playing this "work on yourself / need to think" bullshit women always do. It starts to make a guy resent you and now he see's how much better he is without you, the games, the bullshit. He now see's that having you in his life will more than likely cause him more bad than good. He is focusing on his wants now, not yours.
It may suck to hear but chances are he IS happier without you. Women often will get with a guy and slowly strangle the life out of him. Nagging, playing mind games, "testing" him, whining, etc. The saying goes... "no matter how hot she is, some guy is tired of putting up with her shit."0