So one day she told me she finally broke it off with him and he was fine with it because he felt the same way. She and I got closer but all of a sudden after a couple of days, her ex texts her and say he wants her back. We've been hanging out every weekend since she texted him to break things off. On the thrid weekend, he wanted to see her to get her back. Brought her flowers and even begged her, wrote her a letter but she was not having it. Told him she's not in love with him.
But the next Friday , she tells me that she wants space. We moved too fast and she wants to be single. Doesn't want to jump from one relationship to another this fast. I respected her decision but it seems like she's giving him another chance after giving that whole speech of not taking him back. He's making up for all the times he ignored her and times he took her for granted. Buying her flowers, sending chocolate to her job, getting to see her and watch tv shows, taking her out to places and texting her. I know for a fact he wouldn't be doing any of this if I wasn't in the picture because if he wanted to, he would had done all this for her and kept her happy. It took me to come along to all of a sudden him becoming prince charming.
I understand she wants space but really? From me only? She's giving all her attention to him and keeps insisting they aren't back together. I know all this because I was over to talk to her and she wanted to watch some shows. She told me to use her MAC and when I logged on, her imessage tab was opened. I'm just depressed we never gave it a shot. Help?
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A relationship of 5 years can't be cut off in every aspect in just a day or an hour. There will still be emotions and longing for the things they used to do. If she truly wants to break up with the guy, it can take time until all emotions and feelings for him fade.
Just because it's been weeks or months since she got tired of him, it doesn't mean the feelings aren't there anymore. It's still there, just buried.
So I guess wanting to be single for awhile is understandable, so she can 'find herself' again, straighten things up, sort her feelings out, think about what she really wants. And when all that is done, you have a better shot at her than now.