Two months ago I was cheated on by a boyfriend of 4 years. We broke up. But im left very offended and angry. I feel I am donig okay in recovering. Except every once in a while it hits me again and i get so much anxiety. I think my friends and family are sick of me talking about it. They don't know what to say anymore. I barely talk about it now but I don't want to talk about it with anyone because i feel like they dont want to hear it. I started keeping super busy but weirdly its gotten worse? I don't want to pay for therapy. I don't think I need it. But I feel like im drowning in my thoughts and I spend about 3 hours every day googling cheating and why it happens. What do I do?
Most Helpful Guy
It takes time. I know it hurts. I've been there. It does get better. Your mind is trying to rationalize why it happened, but there's no little box we can put this into. I spent months doing the same thing. My family and friends were worn out with me. I talked to anyone who would listen. I know you're hurting; but trust me, it will get better.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Girl
People cheat because they just do. There is no reason behind it, you are wasting your time analyzing it. Same happened to me 3 months ago, my boyfriend of 3 years cheated on me. Yep, that guy that I thought is a perfection itself turned out to be a complete jerk. And I was also googling about it, talking about it, that's the reason why I came here in the first place. For a long time I thought it was something that I did that made him cheat, that I became less sexy or stopped seducing or whatever - it's not. But I did made one mistake for not paying attention to those little warning signs that we ignore or don't see when we are in love. The more time goes by and the less feelings I have for him, the more I see those signs. I was also too good and compassionate to him that made him spoiled and made him take me for granted, that was another mistake. Unfortunately, no matter how long we are with someone, we gotta be a bit of a cock tease and bitchy sometimes. Be too good and you will be cheated or dumped, that's the sad reality. Anyways, don't worry, you will get better. He probably always had that cheating side in him, it's just the way he is. He won't be good for anyone, he did you a favor after all. Don't think you need a therapy tho, it's still too early 2 months are nothing it gets a lot more to heal. Just keep living your life the way you want. People told me to get busy and I did I was as busy as call center, but it didn't help tbh. So I just accepted that I am gonna be fucked up for awhile. The only things that will heal you is TIME and SOMEONE ELSE. Until that just keep living... that's all you can do.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE