Most Helpful Guy
Routines are difficult to let go. You were used to having someone to attend to or someone attending to you and now that's gone but it's about developing new routines with your extra time and energy.
Many couples get back together because the unknown was too scary or out of sheer boredom. I can tell you that keeping in contact with him does not help no matter how "platonic" the two of you want to make it.. it's still "using" in that sense. Breakups suck, but being cold and cutting it off will move things along.
Advice: Think of goals you have in life, where do you want to end up career wise? What sort of activity did you always want to get into? What sort of friends / support system would you like?
- Focus on these aspects of your life, generating positive activity always helps when things get gloomy and when you knock down goals? Even better.1
Most Helpful Girl
You are perhaps afraid of the unknown. You are used to having a routine set in place and how everything should be while with this person. Now that he is gone, you feel lost, out of place, not knowing what is going to happen next. I say, refocus and rethink what your goals are, what you like doing, put some things in place, have plenty enjoyable activity, hang out with some friends and go with a flow. Don't think about the future too much, just live in the now. Everything will fall back in place on your new terms and you will be happy. Only then when you are happy with yourself, someone new will cross paths with yours ;)0