When she dumped me, she kissed me a few times, asked me to tell her when I got home safely and told me that it was going to be hard not to call me. She kissed me a few time when we spoke a month later after the 1st no contact. I can't help but think she did those things to keep me attracted to her and as an option, should she choose to come back. I never played games with her and feel like she disrespected me and my feelings. She broke her promise to me by doing things she said she would never do.
Should I tell her how I feel when she comes to my house next week? Should I explain how I feel like she led me on, how she hurt me, and ask why she did it? Or, should I just act like nothing bothers me and quickly give her back her stuff and say bye?
She also decorated my living room, should I take down all of the things she put in the room? They just remind me of her, and I want to make an impact when she shows up.
i am not sure why I still care about someone who would hurt me so badly.
Most Helpful Girl
Whatever you do, do it for you, not for her. Remove the art if it bothers YOU - not to make an impression on her. Share you feelings if it will lift weight off your shoulders and give YOU closure - not to guilt trip her.
Also, the kissing and affection should probably be treated with caution. I've had exes do so either out of habit or to enjoy little perks without the hassle or commitment. Or to lessen their guilty conscience by throwing me a bone? So please don't be hard on yourself about lingering feelings - we all have that one person (or many!) who gave 50% to our 100%.
Most Helpful Guy
Man I'm going through the exact same thing. It's been a couple month since me and my ex broke up, and she started going out with guys a month after we broke up. It sucked, I didn't know what to do. And I would still talk to her after that. Till one day I had enough I guess and I blew up and one night I just went to her house and it didn't end very good. Since then we haven't talked, it's been 15 days since. And I've been wanting to talk to her so bad but I know I shouldn't. If she doesn't try why should I you know? But I just put her stuff in a box and put it in the closet. She didn't want it and I couldn't throw them away. I wish I knew how to start moving on or something and I can't. Good luck to you man, hope everything goes as planned.