My boyfriend of a year and a half admitted to me that he cheated on me. I gave him another chance for a variety of reasons, mostly because doing something like that is completely out of character for him. He told me that he wants to try a relationship with me in the future, but that he needs time to find himself again and figure things out. He told me he wants to make sure things are right so that when we do try again, we don't end up in the same place we were. I'm angry that this second chance is suddenly on his terms instead of mine. I told him that I wanted to give each other a month or so of space, and then try things again very slowly. He thinks I'm being unreasonable for making that time limit, but I think as the one who was cheated on I should call the shots. What do you think? Am I wasting my time trying this hard or should I be patient with him?