Me and my boyfriend have been together for a very long time, I cheated on him with one guy, one time. I know that it was very wrong of me. I love my boyfriend so damn much, I don't know why I choose to do that. I want nothing more than to work things out with my boyfriend and get on with our lives. I know it will be very hard to ear his trust and love back but I am willing to do whatever it takes to make this work. What would your advice be on the best way to handle this situation? I am not looking for people to be mean and disrespectful to me I know what I did is wrong, I hate myself for doing it and will regret it for the rest of my life so I don't need people telling me how horrible of a person I am I already know. Thanks
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First off although what you did was a horrible thing you are not a horrible person. Remind yourself all the time of the things you are good at and the traits you can be proud of support those and help them grow.
At the same time be aware of your shortcomings. Whatever trait it was in you that mad you want to cheat at that time. Be aware of it don't try to push it away because then it will only come out with more strength later (just like suppressing anger). Be conscious and aware and allow yourself to change into a better person.
Take the thing you did as a lesson and remember what it has done to your life if the situation comes up again remember this one and learn from the experience. You know now cheating isn't worth it.
All you can do is not to blame him for it happening, learn from it. Truly enjoy the time you spend with him when the subject comes up tell him you love him and that you wish you could undo the past but all you can promise you will never do it again. Your relationship will never be the same as it was and that is something you have to accept but for now when you wake up beside him you can be grateful that he is still there with you, that he is kind and forgiving. When you wake up and are so happy he is there tell him that he is special to you.0