You can give me all the advice in the world about how to move on and be happy, I wouldn't be ungreatful for it but I know how that can be done.
I just want to know how you coped. I want to hear your stories. Your reactions. And if you were the dumper or dumpee what you were thinking and feeling on breakup.
I want to know if I'm crazy or maybe just a fool with a broken heart who is yet to grieve further about this later
My boyfriend broke up with ne. Saying I was too good for him, he didn't know what he wanted and I was too good for him. I deserve better. He said he didn't enjoy being around me anymore and had lost the energy to make things work.
We were on holiday at the time. For the first few days after break up I cried, got angry, got sad, got happy, thought fuck him i'll find someone better, then thought I'll never feel so strongly, got suicidal thoughts, believed the breakup, then didn't believe it. A week on from the breakup and I don't know what I am.
I want to be filled with sorrow. I want to break down. I want to move on too and want to feel happy. I don't want to be in this plain middle feeling. It isn't a feeling. I cannot stop thinking about him and what could have been. I cannot stop thinking about things that lead up to this.
I'm trying to make excuses for his mistakes and not forgiving myself for my reactions to things.
I can't see the way through. I am heartbroken. Absolutely. I can't see that I will ever stop loving or feeling this way. But why am I not constantly upset and in tears.
I am typically strong and resiliant but don't want this to hit me later. Perhaps i'm still in denial.
I definitely need to foregive myself. I need to work out ways to move on but right now I have no stregnth for anything. Good, bad, destructive or positive and productive. I really want to know what he is thinking and if h
Maybe I should givemyself a break it's been one week... we were together 2.5 years. I was honest, loyal and trustworthy continually. I really thought we could get through anything together.
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Ah, you're in that zone. The dreaded land of the undead. I've been there so many times I may as well build a house there.
The most memorable episode was where I was dumped after a 3 year relationship over lunch at Subway. I went through all the usual stages of grief - sadness, anger, denial, blame. I cried. A lot.
It took a while to get past it, but when I really thought about it, it *was* my fault. It wasn't completely my fault, but I'd made some pretty stupid mistakes along the way. It led to me sitting down and writing out what I refer to as "The Rules". I still have it, and I refer to it every time I'm tempted to do something stupid again.1
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