Most Helpful Guy
Well he's definitely acting like a selfish ass. You should try having another talk with him and bring up your issue about feeling like he doesn't value you and feeling disrespected. If he doesn't care and feels the same as he did before you might want to think about if your life will be better without him.
Most Helpful Girl
No, you are not wrong. It might have been the way you went about it. I would try to get something in recording on writing if the implied about paying you back, just in case you two break up in the future. And make sure you get your ducks in the row honey because he seems like he will leave you.