My girlfriend and I have been through a lot the last month or so. Her grandfather has past, and it hasn't been easy for her. For the first week he was in the hospital she was very distant. Which for the first couple days was fine, but by day 3-4, her disregard to my concern was starting to upset me, and she took that as me upset cuz I wasn't getting attention. But what was really frustrating, is there was nothing I could do, because our life is a secret as she is married (I'm her ex b4 her 5yr marriage). So, she ignored me just over a week. We then start talking again, but I could tell she wasn't the same. Unfortunately a week or so later he passed :(. After 3 days of his passing, I was very supportive and attentive to her needs (for what little I could do). Then by day 4, she seemed to be doing ok however, still somewhat distant and lacking affection. I asked how she was doing, and after no response for 4hrs, I sent "..." to which she replied hi... I said ok.. how are you feeling, she said fine, tired. I then said oh.. ok.. well figured I'd talk to you b4 I go out for the night and you g2b (friday). She then got pissed, I asked why so mad, all she could say is, I can't believe your gonna go drink while I'm balling my eyes out. I said, you just said you were fine, had I known you were this upset I wouldn't even have told you. She then says, whatever go have fun, drink your F'n drinks, etc etc. I said (like an idiot) lol wow... she then said whatever I'm through. Goodbye. To which I replied (again like an idiot) Awesome!! I'm free!!!
Anyways.. I pretty much blew up her phone the fallowing 2 days pleading for forgiveness and expressing my guilt. It's been a week now and she still refuses to talk to me. What shall I do?
Most Helpful Girl
Why are u in such a relationship where she is already married?
She is keeping u as an option
Pls I ask u to let go
Its toxic for u0
Most Helpful Guy
Action speak louder then words grab her favorite movie, some ice cream and show up to her house unexpected and say all you need face to face... when a girl say she's ok chances are she is not never make that mistake again and when a woman is going through something you have to be almost as if you are a waiter you make sure you are there as soon as she needs something and not be another problem she has to deal with and look for ways you can ease up things for her in any way0