I know that the relationship I'm in is not going to work for the long run. I feel like no matter how he says he's going to change, I can tell that he has doubts this relationship won't work. And because of that I'm having doubts too. I feel like it's time for us to go our separate ways but it's extremely hard to let go. I love him and I wanted to spend my life with him but not everything happens the way they want. Why is it so hard for me to walk away when I know it's for the best? Each time I think today will be the day, I cry the hardest tears. I need help
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It's hard for anyone whether it's mutual or not.
You've spent a great deal of time with this person and even depended on them. It's hard breaking routines as they are comforting. Now you're forced to live life a different way and that adds stress.
It's very normal to have fears, doubts and even guilt but.. my best advice for you is seek wisdom and consult those who are older have gone through what you are going through.
A story that always hits me during these times are the ones of 50 year old women who are married to deadbeats and wish they never started a family with this guy but they're stuck because of all the difficulties of divorcing (family, mortgage and years of stress to follow).
So it will hurt for the first few months but if your gut says "no," do listen to it.. as the months turn into years.. you will reflect and thank yourself everyday that you left.
However Life is strange... there's a story of a young couple who were together since they're 16... at 24 they called it quits... after 4 years of separation.. they met and dated again and engagement ring was worn 1 month later.
"what is love? baby don't hurt me"1