Most Helpful Guy
I can only imagine how tough the situation feels. I've been in one that seems similar in a lot of ways.
It seems like you have strong feelings for him (and his son) and that you want it to work out happily. However, his behavior seems to be standing in the way, and that's something over which you can have no real control. His mindset and behavior are what would have to change--profoundly and permanently--for the three (!) of you to have a solid chance at a happy, emotionally healthy future together.
If you were a relative of mine, I'd urge you not to allow anyone to treat you with the disrespect--and I note that you repeatedly referred to "cruelty," which is even worse--that you've been experiencing with this man. It would be inappropriate behavior from him even if there were not a boy involved. The fact that a child's well being is at stake, and that he would nevertheless expose the child to a woman who he seems to acknowledge doesn't even care for the child, reflects very poorly on this man.
I respect your feelings. As you've described the situation, he doesn't seem worth those feelings. If he can get his act together--for his son's sake if not his own--then you could revisit the matter. I know it sucks. :) Sorry. I wish you good luck and a happy future.
Most Helpful Girl
He is indeed keeping u as the back up.
Its upon you do u want to b plan b in a man's life or plan a
U make ur stand clear to him that don't talk to me as m not those types who will b hanging around when u need me
You choose what u want and then never look back on your decision