When I was 19 I broke up with my first long term boyfriend. He was 22. That was in 2009.
I know I hurt him a lot but the reality was that for me, after a year I wasn't happy, he was graduating and there was no where for the relationship to go. So I broke up. I moved on. I established distance.
Since I went to school out of state we never were geographically close and there wasn't much chance of contact afterwards.
But two years ago he messaged me talking about some interest he remembered me having. I didn't answer. I felt what was the point?
Now six years after we broke up he has messaged me twice this week. The first one was simply " if you get this call me." Then his phone number
This morning it's "smh [shaking my head]. Why do you hate me so much? ..." (I haven't opened the message only checked the preview)
Do I reply to him and tell him I'm not interested? I want him to be well and be happy but we live hundred of miles away. Its not my fault if he's unhappy with his situation. And I don't want to take responsibility for his feelings. I feel like there's nothing we have to talk about and I don't want to feign interest in someone I've moved on from or open the doors for any false hope. I don't want to be the bad guy again and tell someone I don't love them and I don't want to be their friend.
Do I reply or do I keep ignoring?
- Do I reply back only to shut him down?Vote A
- Do I continue to ignore him?Vote B
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If he keeps contacting you then I think it's time you get real with him because by staying quiet you're not really giving him the answer exactly. He could still be wondering why you're not replying and what it means. It's all very confusing to him. I say tell him that you're not interested and let him know how you feel so he can move on once and for all. Just staying quiet isn't enough. I know if i like a guy a lot or even loved him I'd feel hurt that he can't even make the effort to tell me he's not interest. Be honest with him and just say it's not going to work.0