My ex who lives a state away is coming to visit around new years. We both want to get back together and love and miss each other.
I have requests of him if we do get back together, such as that he call me, take me on dates, and be more involved. These were noticeably absent the last time we dated. He took me on some dates, but not many and we never really did things as an active couple. I want him to work harder than he did the last time
Should I bring up what the breakup was like for me? Should I tell him how he hurt me so he knows where I'm coming from when I ask these things of him? Or should I just tell him that "Because you hurt me last time I'm proceeding with caution," and tell him he needs to work harder this time.
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I thinki you should be straight forward to him, with my ex-girlfriend I really appreciate that, It means that you worry and care for the relationship and because of you saying all of those things you want things to work. You are not keeping them to yourself and then all of a sudden bursting wanting to end it. He should take in consideration what you want definietly, the relationship is a two way thing and both parties deserve to be happy, if he acts dumb about it then he is really not worth it, a man should always try to make the woman they are with as special and happy as she can be.
So my advice is yes, tell him what you expect out of this, leave no details behind, if he listens and reacts nice, it could really turn into a beautiful thing! And if he doesn't appreciate it or he doesn't think he want to do those things or think they are just stupid, get the hell out of there!. There are probably a million guys out there willing to give you all of that so don't worry, you are a pretty girl from what I can see, you will have no problem believe me!0