I recently lost a family member I was close to. My boyfriend decided to carry through still with his vacation when I begged him to postpone a few days because I needed his support. I said a lot of terrible things over text and accused him of everything I believe he should be doing and more.. I really let loose like a crazy person and feel like I didn't know what I was saying At the time as it was coming from a place of great pain.. After I said I wanted to break up a half hour later I came to my senses and changed my mind and the next day I sent a huge apology explaining why I was lashing out and that I know it isn't right and that I need to deal with the pain in a less destructive way. But now he just says "you broke up with me" and that he appreciates my apology but has cut me off. I am feeling so terrible about my loss as it is and now I have lost him.
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I am so sorry for your Great Loss... I know what it Feels like to lose a 'Family member,' and unless someone Has, they can never know the pain that it leaves as You... Grieve.
As far as your so-called 'Soul mate' goes, I find him Insensitive and a bit heartless that he didn't 'Postpone a few days' when he knew You 'Needed his support' the Most... Now you know what to expect when the chips are down.
Yes, you may have been in the wrong to 'Let loose' like you did, but if he can't understand, and even with your 'Huge apology,' that you were under stress and strain, then maybe it is time Now to do some serious Soul searching as to what kind of Soul mate you really have here, dear.
I feel in my own heart until he gets back from his little holiday of enjoying himself, he will keep you on his pay no mind list and when he is Ready Later, after he has unpacked and done his Dirty Laundry... He will then be there for you.
Good luck. xx1