Lets face it, men can fuck up in relationships... Women can to... We all fuck up! We break eachothers hearts and sometimes we realized how badly we've fucked up when it's all to late and we look for forgiveness of even a doorway back in... Women sometimes put us through the biggest obstacles just to get back in, sometimes they change the lock to that door so you'll never get back in no matter how hard you try... They talk shit, call you names rub other men in your face just to hurt you... I've herd a theory that women are only total bitches to men they love and care for the most. Is this true? I've been told they just want you to feel the pain you've once caused them...
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While I feel that that is probably true I think there's only so much that a man should put up with in terms of trying to get "back in the door".
One of the reasons I think that this happens is because the main thing that women want from men is security. The more trust that they placed in you, The more they lose when they feel they can't trust you so it hurts them immensely. To compound the matter, the place that you want to get back to you is where they trust you and feel secure with you again, but as they're trying to do that they're reminded of how they once trusted you and felt secure with you which brings up those negative feelings again. The bottom line is that it takes a very strong man and woman to overcome very deep transgressions in a relationship.
I believe where most men make mistakes in this regard is trying to defend her actions too much. Where most women make the mistake is that they never let it go. They use the transgression as a form of power to ensure that it never happens again.
Basically it's doomed to repeat until the woman decides to trust the man again and there's nothing that anyone can do about that except her. Sure the guy can put himself through all kinds of pain and suffering at her hands to prove how much she loves her but generally, from what I've seen it tends to just make her lose respect for him in the end because no woman wants a man that she can control, she may as well be in the relationship by herself and that's not what she wants.
Ultimately you need to take a stand as a man and show her that you're worthy of respect even though you made a mistake. Don't rub it in her face and don't try to gloss over whatever happened. You don't need to.1