I've known my two friends for nearly 2 decades since we were middle schoolers. Althroughout high school and college they dated, broke up, made up, and then eventually got married... and then unfortuantely are working on a divorce. I am super close to both parties, love them like siblings, but the break up has made it too hard for each other to just be friends and so now as a friend of both, I don't want to start picking sides and having to only invite one or the other to events and things we've been going to forever. It's doubly difficult because our larger circle of friends have all known them the same exact way, for nearly 2 decades. What do I do? Can I still be good friends with both or am I eventually going to have to chose a side?
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You don't pick sides and you don't talk about the other to either of them. You invite them both and if one of them has an issue about it, that one can figure out what he is going to do.
Ultimately the issue is theirs not yours and they will each figure out how they would like to handle it. But it isn't worth burning the bridge on either side.
My great-grandmother had a rule about her sons' divorces "you had a problem and divorced her, I didn't. " As such I have several great aunts who have been divorced from my uncles for at least 30 years, longer than they were married, that are still very much a part of the family and are invited to EVERYTHING. Their ex husbands went on to marry and have kids with other women but all of them get along and attend family events together with no problems.
Once the initial emotions of the divorce have subsided: they probably won't mind being in the same room.0