We dated for two years, he's 25 and basically I was his only serious relationship ever. He had several flings, he dated some girls for a few weeks, but he always was scared of commitment. He fell in love for the first time when we started dating, and his friends and family all told me they had never seen him like this. When he told me he loved me, I was the first girl he had ever said it to. His friends all love me because they felt like I made him happier than he had ever been. I was the first and only girl he opened up to about his problems and the only person he could talk to when he needed to.
When we broke up 5 months ago, I never thought he'd start dating anyone else any time soon. Knowing him, I thought it would take him years to start dating again after getting hurt. But several weeks ago, I started seeing him with a new girlfriend on social media. He took her to a wedding, and I even saw snapchats of them in bed on a Sunday morning. All of the stuff we use to do and more. She changed her profile pic to a pic of both of them.
And it's driving me crazy. I can't stand to see them together, I can't stand the fact that he's serious about her. I feel so insignificant to him now. I knew I still loved him but I learned to live with it, but this I did not expect. And everytime they pop up in my newsfeed, it ruins my day. I feel like we broke up all over again, and I'm really heartbroken.
Any advice? :(
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First of all I want to say that I am so sorry! Sometimes breakups feel as if someone has died. I'm not going to say I know how you feel but I can relate. I was with a guy for four years and when we broke up I felt as if I couldn't breath. I was so hurt I could physically feel it. A couple days later he was in a whole new relationship with a girl and they seemed so happy. And that just added pain to injury. After being together for three months he got engaged to her (they've been together about 7 months now) and for so long I asked myself why I was never good enough. Breaking up with someone you were in love with is hard. Which is why I'm just going to tell you this; its okay to be hurting as much as you are hurting. What you are feeling is not only completely valid but necessary because it makes you so much more human. And although I can't promise that it will get better soon I can tell you that it will... eventually. For now, all you can do is take your time. Take all the time you need. You're going to come out stronger bc of this experience. Just know that You are worth pursuing. You are loved. You are worth it. Wait for someone who knows that. And if ever you don't feel loved know that Jesus loves you. He really really loves you.0