My former best friend/crush broke off our longtime friendship and wouldn't say why for about 2 weeks, then came up with this thing about me "being annoying" that only some of us believed (it's a long story but his brother even went out of his way to get me to stop asking questions). I think it's actually because he thought he could no longer be with me and was giving up. (He knows how I feel by the way - and I can't imagine him acting the way he has over just being irritated.)
Anyway - it's been since April and at one point he told his sister to tell me he was ok but just wanted to be acquaintances - I thought ok fine. So I've tried to just be normal and friendly. But even now he looks at everyone but me and ignores me and/or randomly talks to me and it seems forced and awkward. Or watches me when I'm not looking but otherwise tries hard not to look at me. Our friends noticed yesterday that he wasn't talking to me/blowing me off when I tried and I thought oh :/ I am trying my best to just be normal and move on but it kills me that he seems to be upset when I'm around. I rarely see him happy :/ although apparently he is elsewhere.
Any advice or ideas? I want him to just be some degree of normal even if he doesn't feel anything toward me - I don't expect him to have the same light in his eyes but I hate feeling like I'm causing him some kind of distress/upset - I just want him to not act like this.
Also, my friends say I'm making a bigger deal about this than it is, but I've always been shown a different side of him (more vulnerable etc.) so I think I just see more when I look at him than they do.
Apparently he doesn't hate me but he doesn't want to give me hope - whatever that means on his end, I don't want to deal with this anymore. It's painful and everyone thinking I'm crazy for trying to fix things is not helping.
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His behavior is typical under the circumstances. I understand "being annoying" as continuing to ask questions that he is unwilling or unable to answer. This keeps the awkwardness in focus. The self-conscious way that he reacts around you is hard to take but remember that the more you react to it, the harder it will be for him. Remember that any discomfort he feels is not your responsibility. If you worry about his discomfort, he will only feel worse. It's best to see this as part of life and growing up rather than as something to be avoided or relieved. In time both of you will be past this if you both let go of any hurt that remains. If one cannot let go of the hurt, the other is in no position to help.0