Me and this girl was in relationship for about 6 months. She was kinda hated by other guys saying she is self oriented and some told me even she will use people. But then one day she asked me out and holding my hand and she was crying to accept her as my girl friend.
With time I said Yes and we were in relationship. As the time goes we end up fighting a lot. Earlier she told me stories about how her parents treated her and how much she loves me.
But then she started to ignore me and she started to spend more time with her family and above all she kind of lost interest in me.
First she broke up with me and told me I don’t’ give her enough space. I was crying and begging for her to love me back. Later one day she told me I have nothing that she expects from a guy starting from I can’t speak good English and my skin color is comparatively darker than hers, and she is looking for a hot sleek guy. Her room mate told me she is telling all these because only those are the things she can say to break up with you.
But she wanted me to be her friend. Even after break up we went out and had lunch etc etc. of course on my money. She asked me for loan to buy books etc etc and I did everything but even then she always found mistakes in me and she never appreciated what I do for her.
Now she got loads of friends even guys going behind her. I helped her to bring up her morale and her self confidence...
Few weeks back we had a fight and end up in a big fight where we both said things that’d hurt each other. I kind of stopped the fight even though I can say thousand things to hurt her.
After that she called me only twice and asked me few favors. Actually she had my pen drive and she owe me $400. So when she came to my city last week she called me to give my pen drive back to me. But I was away from town that day so I couldn’t meet her. I told her I get it from you tomorrow. That night I called her to knw the plan tomorrow but she didn’t answer the call.
It's been a week since I talked with her. Yesterday I called her and the first question she asked is “What’s the problem?”
Then I said “What? Problem?, I called to wish your sis on her birthday” and I cut the phone.
Now I miss her like hell, but it seems she don’t miss me at all. I’m so desperate to call her but my friends are saying don’t call. Just let it go.. she don’t deserve you pal.. wot to do… it’s been 8 months since we broke up.. still it hurts….
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Wow there a lot of sh*t that made this relationship go bad...sorry but here it goes...
1. She doesn't respect you...Why? because you let her walk all over you...letting her say "she told me I have nothing that she expects from a guy starting from I can’t speak good English, etc.) to you. I would have dumped her right then and there.
2. She wanted you to be her friend after the breakup and you let it happen. Again, you did favors for her thinking that she would come around to you, but she lost respect for you because you treated her like she was on a pedestal. Bad move.
3. She doesn't deserve you. People said she uses people and what did she do...she used you.
So the relationship was not great from both of you...you need to get a backbone and she needs to learn what compassion is...she learn when she get's into her later 30's when the age factor let's her think twice...
You on the other hand need to learn that if a girl doesn't respect you, then she can't be attracted to you...be assertive, take charge, and lead the situation (a new date/outing) in what ever it is. You need to simply work on yourself for right now. Get some MAJOR confidence back (sometimes harder done then said) like working out, having a solid friendship base (with your bros), and concentrating on you.
"It's not about being the nice guy or the bad boy; it's about being the real man."
- epic quote I will never forget...