Most Helpful Guy
You may not like my answer but here it goes. But yes, its wrong to want him back.
You can't help someone who dosent want to help himself. Its one of the principals of Alcoholism. He is very much addicted to playing games, probably out of not wanting to grow up, take responsibilities, which would explain why he dosent take his studies seriously. He sounds incredibly immature.
Honestly, you shouldent be with someone who puts a gaming console before you, and not only that, based on your explanation it would seem he still values it much more than you. He probably moved in with you to escape his parents nagging him about playing too much and not studying, hoping youd be a haven for him. Now that he sees your just like them, he dosent want you anymore.
Get this straight, this guy is a loser. If he is making you unhappy now, trust me when i say he ain't gonna make you happy later. You yourself said you had no choice, HE WAS HURTING YOU. Someone who loves someone, won't do things to hurt that person. He will sacrifice somethings for you, at least something as simple as a few hours of videogames. This guy sounds like he neither respected nor loved you, he loved his games.
Think about it. Do you really want to waste another minute of your prime on a 23 year old man child who dosent want to grow up, dosent love you, dosent want you, and puts a videogame before LIFE? Dont you think YOU could do better? Find someone who loves you back? Respects the things that bother you? Takes note of your unhappiness and does something about it?
Do you see yourself marrying this guy? Having this cycle go on for years? Because trust me, he dosent WANT to change. You will never be able to help someone who DOSENT WANT HELP.
Do yourself a favor hon, move on. Their are much better fish in the sea.
Most Helpful Girl
It was your mistake to move in with him. Didn't you know he was a gamer before that? If you did then you probably knew he plays a lot. So, you brought this to yourself. You should never try to change someone! My boyfriend and I are both gamers. He is a bit more hard core then me, but I don't mind that. And yes he is also immature, he was sitting home for 3 years doing nothing but playing video games, no ambitions, no searching for a job, nothing. He was earning some decent money from those video games though and his parents. See, I know all of this, and that's why even now after 3 years together I don't want to move in together. I have a steady job and I can take care of myself, but I can't and won't take care of both. Moving in is a big step and it shouldn't be taken so easy. He knows this and he knows he has to find a job. No moving in before that. But besides that I don't mind anything else. He is good to me and I love him. Sometimes he priorities games before me but that's also fine, it's not like I can't live without him. We play games together sometimes. I guess we are just similar and that's why we go good together. Gaming is not an addiction or an illness it's a sport. And if you can't understand that then you should leave, but you don't have a right to blame him. I think breaking up was a drastic decision. you could've just moved out if it's bothering you THAT much. I mean as I see it, as long as I have money for my own food, rent, bills and stuff, and I don't have to pay for his, the fact that he is gonna play 10 hours a day is not any of my business. I hate people nag me about my gaming and I'm sure he hated it too. Yes there is a chance that he is not gonna do anything with his life even 10 years from now but you don't know that. And people shouldn't give up and nag about stuff that MIGHT happen. Just live in present. My boyfriend finally found a job few months ago and I'm so glad I didn't have to do anything about it. People do what they want when they feel like it, not when someone is nagging or threatening them.