I'm super depressed because my parents are getting a divorce. I never thought that they would, like I always thought they had a perfect relationship. They never scream at each other and very rarely disagree on anything. And I went to see them over the weekend and they were just like, "by the way, we're getting a divorce." I'm old enough that I guess I shouldn't really care, but I do. What's the point of getting into a long term relationship if you're just going to end up going your separate ways in the end? It seems like everyone I know has divorced parents. It just sucks.
Most Helpful Guy
I know how you feel. My parents are going through a very nasty divorce right now. 20+ years straight down the toilet, and now all is left is a family shaped wreckage. However, I learned at an early age that the supposed "perfect marriage" they had didn't gel with how the world really is, so I expected it. It's taught me that people change, that's just a fact. Sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worst. Sometimes, the person you fell in love with changes into someone you don't love anymore. The thing I learned while dealing with my own parent's divorce is to not focus on the end, and instead just enjoy the beginning and middle. It'll end how it'll end, why let that stop you from living your life and getting to know a new person?1
Most Helpful Girl
A lot of people do, but that doesn't mean every relationship is doomed. My parents are still together after 38 years. My boyfriends parents have been together 32 years. All my married aunts/uncles have been married for anywhere from 10 to 30something years and still going strong. I have several friends who have been married 2-10 years and going strong.1