How can I forgive myself for being so naive and for trusting someone that proved himself to be everything but my Mr. Right?
He took advantage of me until the very end, in every possible way. He took as much as he could from me, without giving much in return. I did not see what was happening at first, I loved and trusted him. I believe when he talked about our future together, he was very charming! At some point I felt something was not right. I politely mentioned it, but things never really changed. I guess he did not understand, or pretended not to. I started to give less. All of a sudden he started to say that I changed, that I was not the same person he met, that I was not as nice as at the beginning, that "I did not respect him"... He convinced me that I was the one to blame for everything that was not working between us! He got me so confused!
At his convenience, after a couple of years he dumped me out of the blue for someone else. I felt so betrayed. He allowed this person in our life behind my back - I did not know she even existed, yet she could peak into my life at her will. Of course she took advantage of the situation, and he let her. And worse, he did not show any sign of regret or remorse when I found out about it. If someone asked him now, I am sure he would say that his actions were totally justified and appropriate, and that he is a human being and makes mistakes, but we have to accept it and move on - how convenient. The guilt he showed lasted no more than a few days. He wiped me out of his life with a flick of a finger without thinking of the consequences of his actions on me.
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Okay, so I'm not married or was dating her, but I did the dumbest thing I could do and fell for a girl that literally got the most out of me, gained my trust (which is rare), grew close to me, and then completely hurt me and left me to figure out her distancing was due to finding a guy she recently met.
I tell myself that I am human, I fucked up, I learned from my mistakes with her, and slowly but surely moved on. Just takes time and I think you should do the same. Give yourself time to let it out, don't just hold back because that'll hurt more in the end, learn from what he did, realize we are human and we both made mistakes, and move on.
It's gonna take time and hurt like hell, but in the end it'll be better for you. You'll learn from his mistakes with you and know what you want in a guy.
Hopefully this helped, I'm not the best at giving advice but I try.0
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