Ok my ex and I were together for 3 years, knew him for 10... I was friends, real good friends with his sister... his family loved me... we moved in together and we had a blended family... we had support of everyone because they saw how happy we were... but he had jealousy issues, insecurities and blamed it on me... well day before mother's day he kicked me out, stole my tax refund and lied to his family that I stole 2500 from him... he lied said I was talking about his mom, he said I cheated on him and he constantly accused me... even after we broke up I was still there, but I just couldn't anymore because it was like why do this to yourself... so I stopped everything... when I did that he began to just be straight ugly with me... he wouldn't give me my kids things... he wouldn't give, me any of the refund money, my truck was still in his driveway, he threatened to have it towed, just being ugly and I don't know why he acted this way... we broke up May 9th... around June he had a, new girlfriend... then took her to his family reunion, posted pictures on FB through other mutual friends... his family has embraced her... just a week ago he purposely drove past me so I can see him and his girlfriend in the car... he drove by me slowly and leaned over so I can see... he unblocked me on FB for some reason... not that I was looking I just noticed through a mutual friend I could see his name again... anyway... he hurt me BADLY... my 4 and 5 year-old still ask about him... it's like he us going out of his way to make me hurt even more... I deleted his family and anyone connected but I think about it.. not as much as I used to... we just broke up in May... and he drinks a lot now... people tell me I look happier than I was with him... I just don't understand why he had to make it ugly like this... I want closure but not sure it's even worth it... I was forced to stay with my sister but in the process of FINALLY getting my own place... but just don't understand his dumbness?
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I don't know the whole dynamics of your relationship or anything... But it sounds like inside he still carries a torch for you.
Also it sounds like somewhere inside he became twisted and was hurt over something, whether his hurt in his imagination or not is somewhat irrelevant if he believes what he thinks to be reality.
I get the sense that somehow he gets a twisted pleasure out of trying to make you feel bad as some kind of vindictive measure.
Rest assured, karma is swift... And whatever bullshit he pulled on you in your relationship, he will carry over into his new one.
10 years is a long time just to move on without carry a lot of baggage with him... All I have to say is I feel sorry for the girl he's with as I'm sure she has no idea yet what she's going to be dealing with.0
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Oh sweetheart. I don't mean. That in a condescending way, I just know a lot of what you're feeling. Well I can't say that, but I just broke up in June and my ex followed a similar suit. He went out of his way to make things so awful. The last he spoke to me was him abusing me mentally and proving how much he didn't care and how nothing was important other than his desires. Now i hear he's been drinking a lot too. All I wanted was closure.
I can't explain their dumbness. I feel it's a result of them being truly hurt and... angry.. with themselves. I feel like they might think along the lines of "why do I do this!" But couldn't ever help it. And take it out in awful ways. Men are prone to anger it seems. Like it seems to be a default for many emotions, a blind rage.
That's all I have come to think. I'll never understand fully. No explanation will make it hurt less or more excusable. I'm sorry for what you have gone through but I hope that it all leads to something wonderful for you and your children.
Good luck, sweetheart.0