Most Helpful Guy
I don't know the whole dynamics of your relationship or anything... But it sounds like inside he still carries a torch for you.
Also it sounds like somewhere inside he became twisted and was hurt over something, whether his hurt in his imagination or not is somewhat irrelevant if he believes what he thinks to be reality.
I get the sense that somehow he gets a twisted pleasure out of trying to make you feel bad as some kind of vindictive measure.
Rest assured, karma is swift... And whatever bullshit he pulled on you in your relationship, he will carry over into his new one.
10 years is a long time just to move on without carry a lot of baggage with him... All I have to say is I feel sorry for the girl he's with as I'm sure she has no idea yet what she's going to be dealing with.
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Most Helpful Girl
Oh sweetheart. I don't mean. That in a condescending way, I just know a lot of what you're feeling. Well I can't say that, but I just broke up in June and my ex followed a similar suit. He went out of his way to make things so awful. The last he spoke to me was him abusing me mentally and proving how much he didn't care and how nothing was important other than his desires. Now i hear he's been drinking a lot too. All I wanted was closure.
I can't explain their dumbness. I feel it's a result of them being truly hurt and... angry.. with themselves. I feel like they might think along the lines of "why do I do this!" But couldn't ever help it. And take it out in awful ways. Men are prone to anger it seems. Like it seems to be a default for many emotions, a blind rage.
That's all I have come to think. I'll never understand fully. No explanation will make it hurt less or more excusable. I'm sorry for what you have gone through but I hope that it all leads to something wonderful for you and your children.
Good luck, sweetheart.