I asked this question before but didn't get much answers. This is still on my mind and I'm still confused and want to know what my ex thinks. So I need you guys to tell me why a guy would do this. This is what I wrote 2 days ago:
I am so hurt and confused by this. I'll try to make it short. My now ex boyfriend (of a year and half) and I just broke up a week and a half a go. Last night he called me which I was so shocked and didn't expect him calling me so soon after the break up. When I knew it was him who called, my heart began to beat faster like I was excited that he had called but confused as well.
I thought he had called to apologize for all the bad things he had done as well as all the things he had said to me that hurt me. Thought he was going to tell me he was a jerk and that he has realized that he made a mistake and that he wants to be with me. Well I was WRONG! At first we were talking casually, like he was asking me how I was doing, what was new with me, you know just simple things like that.
Then I don't know how we got into the topic of our relationship and he blamed the break up on ME! I was faithful the whole time I was him and never did anything to hurt him in any way. However, he did somethings that hurt me. Like he was talking to his ex and he didn't even tell me and in many occasions he was talking to girls online basically acting single. He also told me that I never loved him which is so not true because I think I fell in love with him and I still do love him. Basically he was saying things that were not true about me and blaming it all on me, and not once did he looked at what he had done wrong.
My first question is, then why did he call me so soon? Is it because he misses me or what the heck?
Second, why is he blaming it all on me when I never did anything to hurt him. Is it that guys don't like admitting their mistakes? Or what?
Third, will he ever realize that he made a mistake of loosing me or regret the things that he did wrong?
Please tell me what you think about this, and give me your honest opinion. I really appreciate it!
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he called you because he misses you and is realizing it now that your not together...like all men they will always blame us for everything that goes wrong so don't be surprised at that...he will realize what he has lost when you start glamming yourself up again and he sees that your a beautiful woman who any man would want to date and so he will get jealous and want you back...if you don't suspect that he has cheated then it means that he just wanted attention from other woman than you and that was probably why he talked to girls online ...dont feel bad but you might not have been keepin the relationship fresh...if you guys do get back together make sure you find different ways to please your man or you could lose him again...and to add to why he called you so soon was to make sure you did not forget him already and to mess with your head and have you thinkin about him all day like you are right now...good luck with your sittuation1