I'm just wondering about the criteria. Do guys start looking elsewhere while they're still technically with their girl, or do they break it off first?
- Meeting someone more appealingVote A
- Falling out of love with herVote B
- Other (specify)Vote C
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Two answers. The main one first.
C: Other (Specify) Cheating.
That's the main reason I leave in a relationship. I find out they're cheating cutns and kick them to the curb. If possible (depending on how angry and vengeful I'm feeling) I might decide to hold out some distant glimmer of hope that they can keep me as a boyfriend and use it to make them really try to work for it. Like say making them tell their parents, family and friends, all about what they did, and maybe toy with them a bit after that before I dump their sorry asses anyway.
Now you might be reading what I wrote and think "Oh my god what an asshole", and yeah you might be right. I can be an asshole, but rest assured, I am not always like this. I was not always like this before. It's just that I've been cheat on and abused and messed around, and fucked over by so many people. Let's just say that I've grown inhumanly cruel to cheaters. Until then I can be a pretty cool guy, but after that you might as well quit the relationship while you're ahead, because I'm not going to be nice about it, and certainly not forgiving.
It's just how I roll. I am not good about handling a break up with any real compassion. The truth of the matter is, if she can't keep her panties on and her legs closed around other men then she has no right being with me. She has no respect for me, and she has taken my trust and violated it. I can't be with somebody like that. Somebody who can't be trusted. Somebody who can so easily just stab me in the back. There needs to be consequences and repercussions to such behaviour.
So, the first thing on my mind is, kick her to the curb. Depending on how bad it was or if I think it will have any impact on her or not my next thought is make her beg. Finally once it's over and after she's broken up, I'd never let her back in. My thought process is that if you let her back in she thinks she's forgiven, and sends a message that she can get away with it and it will be easier for her to do it again. No. Screw that. A cheater needs punishment to learn the lesson.
OK enough about my darker half.
So my other answer is this.
B: Falling out of love with her.
Only other way I'd break up with a girl is if we fell out of love or realized the relationship wasn't going anywhere. Like if we realized it was OK, but had little in common with one another or we had much too conflicting in views or if we just plainly didn't see much of a future in where things were headed, and all that stuff. It can happen. Though really that's only happened to me the once. More often than not I find that the relationships I've had usually end before it reaches that stage because they usually turn out to have already cheated, or they were using me to cheat on somebody they were already with. In cases of cheating... well you already know my opinion on that.
So that's my two main reasons. I can't say as I've experienced option A. Generally when I'm in a relationship, my heart is for her and her alone.