He started therapy for is issues (he has a really bad past, his mom kicked him out when he was 14, his dad died when he was 9 and he was sexually assaulted as a child). I started seein him get back 2 his good old self, the man I loved so much but he would now and then get jealous again so I left him for good. Therapy is helping him & he continues to go. We haven't spoke for a month now and I think he's with som1 else.
- wrong to leave
- Right to leave
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From what you say... I think it was a good thing that you let him go. It does not seem you were invested in the relationship the same way he was. He was there for you always, you weren't. You took advantage of the situation.
Why did you lie to him about your relationship status? Why did you keep him secret from your family? Also, you really flirted and kissed others? It does not matter if you where on a break! How do you think he felt knowing this? Walk a mile in his shoes...
Clinginess, loss of self-esteem, insecurity, jealousy and depression are most likely a consequence of you lies. Lies always have a way to come out! And the consequences on the person that was lied to are often devastating, especially if he already has emotional baggage from his past. He trusted you... and you betrayed him. Once trust is gone, it is gone.
Frankly, I would have dumped you long before if I were him. He probably loved you so much and was so invested in the relationship that could not find the courage to do it.
So, if you really love him, let him go and move on with you life. You guys do not seem to be a good match. Perhaps the person he is seeing now is a good match for him. Also, learn for your mistakes - do not tell lies. Honesty always pays back.