Me and my girlfriend of over a year broke up about a month ago. We didn't really hang out much at first... slowly worked my way back into her life. After the first week we slept together but she made it clear we werent together again. I just said I know. She started to contact me more and more... calling me to hang out, to talk etc. She still has wet feet about a relationship again... we had a lot of fights towards the end but the last month has been calm and drama free.
Anyway, she has slowly warmed up more to me. We haven't slept together again, just intimate hugs, kissing and holding eachother a few times... she knows i love her and I dont shower her with stuff or take me back, i just enjoying our bond. She stated texting me starting to miss me at night, then the other day text me saying im the best guy she has ever meet, im like her superman, and she is happy i am in her life.
I know she still has contact with an ex fiance (she was witj him for 6 years), but she turns down seeing him all the time for me... plus overall he doesn't compare to me as a man (lives with parents, immature, unintelligent... etc)
This girls also makes hints about us being together. She says things like she wants us to be a ripped couple since we work out a lot, or talks about how the future will be, blah blah... yet she sometimes mentions how she isn't ready for a relationship (ummm seems to me we are in one).
Should i slowly just let her figure her shit out... its been improving? Part of me wants to give an ultimatum but i think that will just pressure the situation more. She flirts more, smiles more, doesn't freak out when i talk about us being together again, and i think she's starting to realize what she had and not trying to lose it... but I dont know if i should try to turn up the romance and see how she responds or what. What do you girls think... or am i totally mislead
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imagine being in her shoes... you love the feeling of being with someone, etc.; basically a relationship. But, to term it a relationship adds pressure that people generally aren't sure that they can handle. I believe that she wants to be with you, but she doesn't want you to pressure her about it. Some people have to grow into that title because it puts an ultimatum on things. it seems like when you guys got into a relationship the first time, everything changed; everything has gotten so serious so quick. but, as soon as you guys broke up, the good times came back. is it possible that she missed what you guys were before? or it could be that she isn't ready to commit... at the end of the day, its about how you feel. if you feel as if she is leading you on, talk to her and see where she stands. If you like where you guys are at, still talk to her, but put some clarity in it. if you feel its not going to go anywhere, let her know that.0