I've been with this girl through it all. I helped her through threats of suicide and got her to seek help. We've been together for about five months now and she is emotionally dependent on me. We've come to a point where all she does is sleep. She's a full time student and she moved in with me about 2 months ago. She doesn't work and I pay for everything. She insists that even though I work 50 hours a week I should still clean the living room and kitchen and wash all the dishes. I'm getting sick of it. I'm miserable. My place was clean always until she moved in. I washed my dishes as I used them. Now she piles plates without so much as rinsing them off and I'm expected to use my one day off to clean. I'm done, I want out, but she has stated off hand before "If not for you I would have killed myself." And I'm afraid she'll do it if I leave. I do love her, but sometimes love isn't enough.
Most Helpful Girl
For 'Five months' and sadly still counting it seems, you have Now become this girl's life line and sole support. She has her claws in you, Depends on you for her very breathe that she breathes. However, you are tired of it all, cannot handle it At all and Now... I'm getting sick of it.
Sit her down and get a game plan together. Do it diplomatically, you can't trust what she might do at any given moment. If you don't want to be alone to Inform her of your new man plan, find a friend to sit down with you. It won't be easy.
Tell her you are going to help her make new living arrangements, whether it is at a near by Salvation Army shelter or a Woman's shelter or tell her she has to find a friend or family member that she needs to bunk in with.. This is Not working out for you.
It is not so much the idea that you are the Sole supporter, it is Hard to deal with someone who has mental issues. On top of That, being a slob to boot, is enough to drive you insane.
If she Threatens to End it all even as you watch, pick up the phone and Dial...911. You can't continue down a beaten path of Beating yourself up because you feel Responsible for every move she makes when you are trying to throw in the dish towel and move on yourself.
Good luck. xx0
Most Helpful Guy
Get the hell out man! The relationship you just described is fucking dysfunctional. If she takes her own life, that's her problem. Don't let her drag you down to her level!
Run! If you're so in love, why do you fucking hate your life right now? Get away from that nutcase!3