We have been dating for 2 years and living with each other for 1 year. Basically everything was perfect in the start I thiught this was gonna be the one to build a life with and he's great with my 5 year old son iv know him for c blose to 4 years first date was a disaster but I gave him another change a year later. Well 3 days ago he choked me several times to the point where a seconds more I would of passed out he did this repeatedly and then putting all his weight through his hand covering my mouth where I was worried about my teeth. This lasted 6 hours and he wouldn't let me go or leave the room until he tried to hold me and he fell asleep we both did eventually I was able to text my cousin to call the police. This wasn't the first time where he had become abusive physically this way. I know that night we had finished coming back from the bar but he's the kind of person who cannot hear any criticism or truth and it drives him crazy he wasn't making much sense to me that night and when I told him he's gonna kill me he thought I was exaggerating or couldn't believe I would say that. He would ramble on when he was mad to the point I thought I had a mental break down in the car. When he's good he's great and he's done a lot and helped its just if liquor is involved I know it's a 50/50 we will argue. Now, back in February I was pregnant he took me to new hamshire for beach view suite where there ended up being a huge snow storm... Again we got into another argument 2 days after v-day in this hotel he ended up leaving me with a bruised lip and locked out of the hotel in freezing temperatures where I had to walk to the closest open place to use a phone. We were 1.5 hours away from home and he had already arrived to our home he continues to talk and be angry and didn't even care that I was out there pregnant with hardly anything on and the manager of that hotel had to calm him down and man up that it was dangerously cold. So this continued onth his lies I eventually found out
Most Helpful Guy
Probably because y'all were so close in the beginning and everything was great, but now he's locked up after showing his true colors. You sound like a really caring person, just put your faith in the wrong guy.
You did the right thing though. Sounds like it would have gotten worse before getting better.1
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I think you feel guilty because there's a part of you that loves him.
You must realize you did the right thing.
He is not good for you or your child.
Stay away from him!
This will effect your child negatively if he continues to see this type of behavior displayed.
If you let him back into your life, one day he will have gone too far and seriously injure you (where you can no longer function the same) or worse even kill you.
Above is a story of inspiration for you.
I applaud you for making a strong move.
But you have to continue to be strong for your child, and not let him back into your life.
He needs to get help!0