This is about my ex... One day he stopped talking to me out of the blue... I thought that he might need some time to think, since we were constantly fighting... so I let him be. I didn't call, text or anything. But then 16 days later I saw him on a concert with his friends and ex. They flirted and when he saw me he pushed away from her. I was pretending to have a great time with my friends and ''didn't even notice him'' but in reality it really hurt. After he pushed her away he appeared to have fun with his friends but he was constantly glancing my way.
So the next day I was really confused. I mean he didn't talk to me for 16 days what so ever and then I see him with his ex? Obviously I wanted answers so I called him and we arranged to meet on a Tuesday. He asked via text what was this about and I didn't say much. Actually I apologized for MY behavior in the past and asked something about Juliet (the ex) but he ignored the question.
So on Tuesday he didn't call or anything so I asked him when shall we meet and he said that he thought that what I wanted to meet for, was to apologize like I already did. So i got really mad and we had a fight over texts.. I told him that I don't care about him anymore and he got angry over that. He said that I shouldn't say such things over anger because he knows that I do care and that he does too, but that he wants to leave all of this behind him. He also said that we can meet but that it won't change anything. So i ended the conversation by saying that I don't want to meet at all, that I just needed to talk to him about this so that I could feel better and that I wanted to hear what he had to say. And that I don't care if we're on good terms or bad ones, that I'm just glad that this is behind me and ended it with a ''have a nice life'' sentence. He didn't respond.
And now I would really need your opinion on this... Please help!
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I understand your pain and frustration with this. I was also not the best I could have been in my last relationship. So let's focus on helping you. The first thing you have to keep in your mind is the possibility that you're not going to get back together with him. You need to mentally start putting that in your mind so if it happens, you don't take the blow that much harder. I'm going to have you look at a few things when trying to get back together with your ex. How long were you in a relationship? How serious was your relationship? (Big one) Why did you break up? How did you break up? What changes have each of you made since breaking up? What have you tried to do to get your ex back? Knowing these questions for yourself will have you take a look at the picture to see what are the real chances. When people break up, and I suspect he broke up with you, it's hard for them to want to get back together because you might be trying just to prove a point. So prove it to him by sticking to the No Contact rule and follow though. When you text: Hey, just seeing how you're doing? All he's hearing is: I'm miserable without you and need attention. So don't call, don't text, and don't contract him. In fact, cut him off of facebook. Don't beg or try to use pity. A lot of people think if we use pity, they'll feel sorry for us and come back. It's important to be your own person so if they do decide to meet you again to talk about things, make sure it's on your terms too, not just theirs. Be your own person and have respect for yourself. Doing everything your ex says will only drive them away further. I know you want to show him attention but the exact opposite effect occurs. When you break up with someone, you didn't want to be around them, so when they are still blowing up your phone, or constantly showering them with affection, it makes them even more resolved to stay broken up. The biggest one is to freak out when your ex starts to see someone else. This fear that if they date someone else, they'll forget you forever making us react even more desperately than ever. Don't panic. The girl they're seeing is usually nothing serious and won't be any thing serious or a rebound relationship (98% fail rate). If he's seeing someone, it means he's handling the breakup hard. Remember to give your ex plenty of space and don't panic. Try to focus on other people and things for the time being. (difficult I know). Improve yourself. Wait a month before talking to them. Good luck1
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