We broke up a month ago. We had a loving and beautiful relationship, which was serious for about 3/4 months. It was one of those unexpected break ups. He started to need time and space, to back off completly and not paying me any attention or giving me any value at all, out of the blue. I gave him all the space he needed but he didn't seem to change, altough he kept saying that he loved me and he wanted to stay with me for his entire life, but that he needed time and space. So we broke up. We haven't talked to each other for a moth now, zero contact. There is no day that I don't think about him, that I don't cry, that I don't miss him. But I can't ever look at him the same way, he was selfish and never cared about my feelings...
What should I do? I keep myself busy all the time, I read, I run, I watch movies, I walk...
Most Helpful Guy
It can be easy to do if you allow yourself and not have any mental restrictions.
You just need to forget about him and move on. Start talking and being interested in more and different people. Try and avoid everything that reminds you of him for the time being, but obviously you can't avoid everything all the time. You will need to think of other things and people instead of your ex boyfriend.
Loads of other people say that their ex boyfriend is perfect and whatever, which doesn't help getting over as your making them seem perfect. If you tell yourself someone is perfect, such as your ex or this lover, then eventually you will believe that and will want him and start missing him.
Also, don't compare him to other guys you see, cos if you think a perfect boyfriend is like your ex, then no one but him will fit your description and you won't be able to move on cos you can't. No two guys are the same, if that makes sense.
If you need more help, advice or just want to talk feel free to ask or send me a message
Hope this helps.1
Most Helpful Girl
I know its hard. I had a guy I have known since I was 10 I'm 20 now. We talk occasionally. Well about a half a year ago we reconnected and we both seemed to like each other things were good but after two months had passed he began talking to me less. We lived like 45 minutes apart and I'm the one Who would drive to him. Well his phone broke and we would go weeks without talking and so I'd text his friends and his best friends girlfriend told me he would say we weren't together and that I was being annoying. Rude I know. Well a lot went down and when all that settled I went to see him. We had sex and it felt passionate to me well the next night when I left he had sex with one of my friends. He told her we were never a thing. Of course I was hurt. I told him we would never be a thing ever again. He has apologized a lot but he hurt me and I have moved on. He still has a special place in my heart but that's all it will ever be. Its knowing how great you are and knowing what you deserve is what will get you through it.0