My boyfriend (ex sounds too weird right now) and I broke up a few days ago. We started seriously dating about 3 months ago, but were good friends for about a year. He started acting really distant a few weeks ago and I was worried about our relationship, but he insisted everything was fine.
Our relationship was incredibly intense and moved quickly at the beginning, but the last few weeks it's been stagnant and he stopped opening up to me. Just a month or so ago we were talking a lot about the future, like the trip we planned and me moving into an apartment closer to his side of town (which I was planning prior to us dating).
He has battled depression and anxiety for most of his life, but I've never seen him act like this. I don't know if that's what caused his recent change in behavior or if it was me. A few of our friends mentioned his behavior being different too.
Saturday night we were supposed to see a movie we've been talking about for a while. I didn't hear from him all day (which is weird) so I asked him at 6:30 if we were still on. He didn't text back for over an hour, and the next movie showing was really late. Our friends had talked about going out, so he asked if I wanted to do that instead. I told him yes and that I was headed to the bar where we were all meeting. He didn't text back, so after being there with our friends for over 30 minutes I asked if he was coming. Nothing. I'm sure the alcohol didn't help, but I broke down. I told a couple of our girlfriends what was going on and I just couldn't stop crying. He eventually showed up after another friend text him and we went outside to talk. I told him the lack of communication was frustrating me and I didn't know what was going on because we aren't talking like we used to. After a lot of talking and crying (on both our parts) he told me he doesn't see a future with me and he doesn't have the same feelings anymore. Did I push him away or could it be his depression that caused this?
Most Helpful Guy
Drinking drugs or trama or illness are the 3 main causes of sudden change1
Most Helpful Girl
Sorry for your loss but the truth is, relationships fizzle out sometimes. Not all of them are going to last for ever. He probably felt bad about ending it but it's for the best because you guys fell out of love or whatever.
No big deal, brush yourself off and move on. You will feel better soon enough :)0