Most Helpful Girl
... I caught my ex texting another with a other dude...
It seems she pushed a few bull buttons on Your own end, @Pk777, and I do Not blame you at all for Being... A jerk.
She was in the wrong for Not Explaining you on her own end and if she was a girlfriend to begin with and Now is Your "EX," maybe it is time to leave well enough along, let her do some soul searching of not having you around and maybe Next time, being taught this little lesson, she will Think Twice Before... She texts to Another instead of saying boyfriend.
Give yourself some space to do your own thinking. If there have been other Instances that have gotten your hair in a tither, perhaps with this Break, time for a Breakup so you can find someone who is More deserving.
In the future, no need to get so heated that the 'Coarse language' is called for. You can use Actions that are louder than words to make your point go across and to Make... A good point as well.
Good luck. xx0
Most Helpful Guy
Being angry and saying unpleasant things during a breakup is something I have done in the past. I think it is a quite human response to feeling hurt, betrayed, lied to, having been taken advantage of, etc. However, I have tried to control my anger response and keep it in check because good things rarely result from expressing that anger. In my recent divorce, I sad something out of anger on one occasion but I otherwise did not call my wife names or say things just for the purpose of hurting her. I may have said things that hurt her, but if so, it was an unintended consequence. I feel better now that I handled myself in that way, so. . . if you want to get a handle on your angry response, don't try to justify it on the basis of what your partner deserves; do it because you want to be a nicer person and like yourself more.1