We were forced to go long distance and live on the other side of the world from one another. I found it very difficult to maintain a LDR and often felt more miserable than happy with the way things going. After a while I realised that the way my life was at the moment, being a full time student and only being 22 years old I couldn't committ to a serious, long distance relationship. I told her over Skype and tried to be as nice about it as possible but it blew up into a big argument. I explained that I couldn't give her what she really wanted because at this point in our lives it isn't realistic and she just started calling me selfish and saying that she regretted the whole relationship.
I really enjoyed our relationship, I was optimistic about a LDR but sadly it didn't work out. The way she reacted and the things she said to me made me feel a lot more down. Did I do the right thing?
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LDR is One of the hardest to Have and to Uphold of Any, @turkokturok4, for I know this probably better than anyone here, dear. I still have a husband out in Egypt whom married and lived with for awhile in Cairo, and being back in the states, I have not gone back in a very long while to be with him because of all the problems worsening in the Middle East. However, we still manage to stay together and with every breakup, is a Makeup.
It takes two special people to tango and tangle this kind of relationship, and if only One is making the effort and taking the time and patience in Working on this, then the other is Not a team member, and it can go dead real quick in the water like a fish out of water.
I find you are young, however very smart in being an Honest John with her, making no lame duck excuses. Of course it isn't going to end well, you can tell, but the truth had to come out, rather than you play hide and seek behind the computer curtain when she is on Skype and You.. Are not.
Don't feel too guilty although I know you have a heart and are feeling bad and sad. She is just the One here who would have swam high waters for you in this LDR but it won't work to Anyone's Advantage when there is just One... team player.
Good luck and my blessings to find someone closer to home and to your own heart. xx0
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You did the right thing man.1