OK ill try and sum this up the best I can. Me and my boyfriend have been together for three and half years, feels like forever though. We've had are ups and downs but for the most part we both really loved each other, were there for one another it was great, but sometime after we moved in together and my daughter was born a year and a half ago, we just argued like every other day over nonsense I honestly don't even remember what, I was very insecure he was my first , he's been with plenty girls before me so I would get mad seeing him looking at girls curse him out just really insecure at times, then I found out he had been talking o girls here and there on the phone behind my back. He said it was nothing consistent and he did it becuz he liked the attention he never took it further than a few conversations though. Now this I forgave him for and tried to understand considering that I did hold back a lot in the relationship, it was my first one and I'm a very shy person I never even called him baby! and when he messed up I really came down on him for everything!
So about a year ago are daughter got sick was in the hospital for quite sometime, and we lost are apartment we lost a lot, so its been pretty hard and stressful and we've been arguing even more, So my boyfriend told me he wanted a break he's tired of the drama and stress he still loves me but he doesn't think we are good for each other right know and we both have a lot to work on. I have been so depressed he was my whole life! and know I never see him he doesn't call , he said he needs space he doesn't feel the same anymore and he doesn't know what he wants. (part of this has to do with me putting my friends before him he says!, and I guess after I found out he called other girls I continued to hold that against him and treat him bad , like dissing him for my friends which is very true.) But I have done a lot for him.
We have been going through this for like two weeks know, and I told him I finally realize that I should have changed my ways, but he's not hearing it, he just wants a break he says maybe in the future we will be together again but right know he doesn't think we should! . . . is there anything I can do? Is it really over? What are the chances of him coming back and realizing that over all I really do love him and will change? Did I burn my bridges once and for all?
Ive been trying to not call and just let him be butt its very difficult, it hurts!
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If he's your everything you have to treat him as such. He should be the second most important person in your life only second to your daughter. Try writing him a letter unmarked and explain how you really feel. Put the sugar in it; pour on the love. As far as overcoming jealousy, I've been there. It's even worse with postpartum depression which can last for 3 years. If you want your relationship to work you have to forget the past and move toward the future. In the future if he's not threatening your relationship let him look, let him talk, and let him have his freedom. Don't smother him because he still has rights to be himself w/out you breathing down his neck so to speak. It is hard to look at everything with an open mind but after the first month I became a changed woman. I no longer care about him looking or talking to other women because I trust him when he says I love you.
I also blew him off for my friends. They weren't even real friends really. They were online friends. Now that your eyes have been opened and you truly see what he feels you need to tell and show him that you're sorry. Show him that he's what is important to you. Love him like he should be loved and if you don't want him to go show him. Not for just a week, a month, or even 1 year. It's a constant thing. Don't give him reason to take a second glance because you're what he has to come home to.
Best of Luck to you friend.