It's been a week since he dumped me. We were together for 3 years in a LDR. I feel so pathetic. I literally can't stop crying. I tried seeing people and to hang out with friends, but then I just run to the bathroom to cry. I can't stop. I never felt this way, this empty and hopeless. I fake that I am strong when people ask me how I'm doing, I even menage to put a smile. I've been through a lot in my life, I was always such a strong person. I've been in relationships before but in never ever felt like this. I loved him with all my heart but he lost interest. Just like that, out of the blue. I remember years ago, when I see other people being fucked up over a break up, I remember saying to myself how I will never be like that, that it's not worth it. And I know it's not worth it, I know I will get over this eventually, I know I will meet someone else eventually, I know life goes on. But the fact that I know all of this doesn't help at all. I'm doing all can to get busy (I go to gym, I work extra hours, I play video games, I started painting, etc.) but shit doesn't help either. I do all of those things with tears in my eyes. I'm not even exhausted I feel like I need to cry more. It hurts so much and I can honestly say this is the worst period of my life ever. Never thought I will see myself being this broken and even more because of A GUY. I don't know what I want, if I want him back or if I want to move on, I just know that I want to stop crying. Any other feelings but not sadness, please. I want to get angry, mad, crazy, whatever! Just not sad anymore... But I can't get angry because I'm not angry. I don't hate him. He did what he needed to do, can't force someone to love me. I can't blame him. Can't really blame anyone but distance. The hardest part is ignoring him. He wants to stay in touch and he already asked me how I'm doing and if I want to watch a movie together. I don't want to be friends so I don't know if I should just keep ignoring him or be cold to him or tell him the truth about how I'm really doing. At this point I don't even care what he will think or how he is doing. Is this normal?
Most Helpful Guy
If you feel so bad, I wouldn't start ignoring him. Talk to him, he's the one person who knows best what happened so if he wants to meet, he's the best listening ear.
Just be 100% honest as to how badly it hit you and how you can't stop crying.
It wouldn't even be the first time that someone takes such a decision as dropping a guy or girl, to feel sorry about it a week later.
So at least talk. Even if you don't want to stay friends.
And don't feel shy: three years together create a strong bond. It's no problem that you feel like crying eternal tears. Love is a strong power!
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Most Helpful Girl
Yes, its completly normal. I didn't stop crying for mobths after my break up. If staying friends doesn't work for you then don't feel like you have to, you have to take care of you. You can politely tell him that you need time to heal. Even though you might want to keep in touch it is not healthy and it will not help you to heal.
Big hugs and trust me, you will survive0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE