What would you do if your kids borrowed something when they headed off to your ex's (around the $100 value) and didn't bring it back right away? What if once they brought it back your ex demanded you pay for it or return it (remember you own it) - and your kids were aware of the situation (they knew it was yours and that your ex is telling your you'd best give it back - and your kids are afraid of your ex when they get like this)? If your ex was super hostile would you just give it back and avoid the conflict or stick to what's right so your kids didn't get the impression that the bully wins even when they are in the wrong? Would you stick to your principles and not give them/pay them for something you already own to show the kids that's the proper approach or just cave and give your stuff to them when they become rude and demanding because the cost is small relative to the disruption to your life the ex will assuredly cause?
BTW: ... in this scenario, your ex was physically and verbally abusive, openly cheated on you and demanded an open relationship triggering a divorce (since just one of those didn't seem to be enough)
... fiction or reality, you be the judge
Most Helpful Girl
Don't give in--it belongs to you. You don't even owe the ex any explanation as to why they aren't getting it back. The kids will have to learn to live without this item while they are at the other parents house. Trying to placate them just to keep the peace only sets a precedent for them to get their way because they threw a fit. If they act like a child, feel free to treat them like one.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Guy
Wow sounds like what I am going through and will be going through after the divorce for exactly the same reasons. As long as she isn't living with you anymore and can't do much to you anymore I would stick to your guns as you put it and let her know she is wrong and stand up for yourself finally, something you probably were never able to do before with her0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE