He broke up with me 2 months ago. The reason being I was picking unreasonable fights and it just hurt him to much. I worked on the area of concern and went no contact for a month. We've been texting briefly and are going to get coffee sometime soon. The thing is... he is confusing me. Yes I want us to have another chance. Yes I still love him but I'm wondering what he means by all this. He said "all he needed was a little space. he wanted to make sure that I really am better and have the self esteem I deserve, I'm sure things would be different. I'm not going to be more than friends unless I know that's the case. It's not a promise we'll get back together. He will not be hurt like that again. It wouldn't be something he'd consider unless I really am better. He wants to be friends and be cordial and be on good terms for a while. That's the start of knowing I'm doing better." Can someone break this down for me?
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He is giving you a supportive ultimatum: he is willing to CONSIDER giving you a chance... not he is swearing he will... if he sees a big enough change in you that he sees it as possible that the relationship can mend. He isn't giving you any "If you're better I'll date you" statement because you may be "better" (as in you improved) but not 100% where you should be (meaning you could still have hiccups and struggle with past behaviours) where he'd feel comfortable enough re-entering the relationship.1