But if the cheater came back and was very apologetic and everything, I just don't see what's wrong with giving them one more chance. Again, I am not saying third, fourth, etc, I mean second chance and if that fails, done.
To me, in my opinion, I just think it's fair to give a second chance. I think if you can avoid making the same mistake twice, then you have successfully reformed yourself, and that's why hypothetically I would give my girlfriend a second chance, provided again, she had shown that she was actually sorry for the incident and had intent to reform herself. I just think it's fair to at least allow a person to demonstrate that they won't make the same mistake again.
What's wrong with this idea? What is the downside of giving a cheater only a second chance?
Most Helpful Girl
You should do whatever you feel is right in a relationship.
I personally don't agree with you though, I think cheating changes the relationship and I would never look at someone the same if they cheated on me. I wouldn't trust them or respect them and those things build a relationship.
Most Helpful Guy
Your age is showing. Cheating is not some minor, temporary lapse of attention, didn't see the red light in time sort of thing. Cheating is an intentional act for which a person has time to reflect and ponder the consequences before committing the offense. It is a reflection on the character of the cheater and it reveals an attitude that generally does not change over time.
When you pledge faithfulness to someone, you are not making a promise to not cheat twice. You are promising to not cheat once. If the girl has broken that promise to you, why would you trust any other promise that she makes. For most people, cheating signifies the end of a relationship. That is why you got down-voted.