So if you read my recent posts I was dealing with a guy who basically treated me like crap for three years and used me for money. Long story short when I stopped giving it to him he decided he didn't want me. He even had the nerve to call me up just to tell me about his new girlfriend and how prettier she was then me and how her sex was better blah blah blah. I haven't spoken to him since that day and blocked him from everything and out of the blue today his sister sends me a message on Facebook asking me to come up there this weekend because they needed to go food shopping and their waahing matchine broke stuff like that. I have a car and they dont and I'm guessing they don't know anyone with a car or they have asked others and they have said no. I told her it was best if I stayed away and she told me that I didn't have to see him which was odd because they all live together. I told her polietly that I am going to be busy, which I am and that he has this awesome girlfriend that he threw in my face why not ask her? A VERY and I mean VERY SMALL part of me feels bad because I don't want to be petty. Was I wrong for saying no? Should I feel bad? Should I have said that about the girlfriend? I don't want any bad karma LOL.
Most Helpful Guy
No, you were not wrong. When you break up with a boyfriend, you also break up with his family. It was wrong (but scarcely surprising) for the sister to call asking for favors. You are hurt and you said something that was relatively mild. I would not think about it again.2THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Girl
You are NOT wrong for saying no. Please don't feel bad. You are not obligated to take them grocery shopping. I know why you feel bad, you want to help them and his sister didn't do anything. However, it's too risky to go there and possibly see that guy.
TBH you are far better off without him. Just do you, go out with friends, have a good time, enjoy your life. You deserve it! Pamper yourself! It's okay to say no if there is a possibility you are going to be in a situation where you will see this guy and possibly the new girl.
I can't believe he called you to tell you about how great his new girl is. WHO EVEN DOES THAT? Sounds to me like he is trying compensating for losing you. You were probably really good to him, by the sounds of it you were.
Just be glad that you no longer have to fund his sorry butt. Spend that money on yourself :) Get your hair done, nails done, some new clothes, or even just a movie with friends. Do something you enjoy :) Don't feel bad!
If I were in your shoes, I would have said the same thing! You did nothing wrong!0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE