My boyfriend of 1 year and I broke up. I still love him but i ended things. I can't force myself to be with somone I am not happy with so I had to do what I had to do. After saying "its over" he now wants me to give him at least 350$ to cover all costs on dates he took me too, he wants me to return all gifts he gave me including his grandma's locket (me returning the lcoket is the only thing I understand). I have paid for dates too and got him gifts (this relationship was 50-50) but I never asked/ do not want to ask him to pay me back or return all gifts! And I've been in many relationships and none of my past exes asked me a request like this, this specific guy was the only one who asked me such a thing. I do refuse to pay him back but would I be a bi*ch if i didnt? I could block him on socialmedia and his number. But I do not want any cops showing up on my door. He has never threatened to press charges or anything but could he? I dont even want him showing up at my house and causing a scene either but I am broke! that 350$ could go to my student loans geeze. Is it a must that I should pay him and im i obligated to? Any opinion and advice would be great
Most Helpful Guy
You have no obligation to return anything that was given to you as a gift, and that includes dinners and entertainment. If you had a physical relationship, ask him (not seriously, of course) if he should compensate you for all of the physical pleasure you gave him. The real problem is that he is extremely angry and 1) this is his way of showing you how angry it is, and 2) this is his way of prolonging the breakup, because in his mind, it's not over yet.
Do return the family heirloom but have him sign a receipt for it. Tell him that you have no obligation to pay him for anything else and that, if he continues to contact you about this, you will get an injunction against him for stalking or harassment. Block him on your phone and on social media. But be sure to follow through on anything that you threaten.
Most Helpful Girl
Give him back his grandma's locket but don't pay him back, you owe him nothing. He's making it seem as if you contributed nothing financially to the relationship, when you clearly did. The judge will probably laugh in his face if he decides to press charges.1