I came out of an abusive relationship 2 months ago. I used to be brought down, humiliated and called names, I did not ever leave because I was manipulated at the same time and for a really long time I thought that my partner did not mean to hurt me while saying all those horrible things. I only started realizing there must be something truly wrong when I started having panic attacks, and self harm thoughts and I used to be depressed almost all the time.
Anyways, now that I have woken up, I just can't stop thinking about the past and realising more and more what his real intentions were. I want to stop thinking about that because it is useless now.
I also don't talk to my ex anymore (I cut off all contact with him) and I wonder a lot how he feels about me even now... I don't know how to stop caring about what he thinks. My ego needs to be satisfied in some way I guess, but that only brings pain, I just want to let it go.
I try to keep myself busy but that is not really efficient.
Most Helpful Guy
Overcoming something like that in just 2 months is almost impossible. I would suggest therapy. People can take years to process and overcome this. It's not to be taken lightly. Also, don't think that jumping into another relationship will help you. That's not a cure. It could actually make things worse. Get professional help with this.1
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Most Helpful Girl
Who cares wtf he feels? You need to worry more about yourself and your value. You took advantage of all of that! Now you are starting all over on rebuilding yourself because he was the one to drag you down. You need to work on yourself and go talk to someone. It will do wonders and get you in a much healthier much better place.1