First off I am 22 and she is 18. We started dating last year and at first i didn't want anything serious because I was really depressed with my life, I was a daily alcoholic. This girl comes into my life and the more I pushed her away the more she kept bothering me and I didn't want anything serious. Eventually I caved her I was an asshole to her for a good 2 months like calling her names, you name it the whole 9 yards. 3 months I saw a picture of her kik of her kissing her ex, I confronted her about it and she told me the story behind it, up until then I believed her it was an old picture but that arose suspicion because why would she still have her exs picture anyways. The following month she decides to hang out with her ex, since he looking for her and she had the nerve to take a picture with him in his car, and when I confronted her she told me it meant nothing and she didn't cheat on me, but wasn't planning on telling me about the encounter with him. It was not until we finally started hanging out about a month after we started talking that I started to take her serious and I stopped drinking and getting my shit together, but by then she was messing up with life. I tried to help her, I encouraged her to finish school and then right about close to our 6 month anniversary she broke up with me, she told me she lost someone special in her life nothing would be the same and she wanted to split. I was devistated I was really into this girl, then a week later I see her kik of her again with her ex this time holding hands, she comes looking for me 2 weeks later saying she thought something was there but we ended too soon. Lately its been like this I stopped texting her like I used too but every blue moon she calls me apologizes says she wants to start brand new but always messes things up again, sometimes I think on purpose, and keeps playing this him, you, and me game. I just want to know should I just walk away, and if so how?
Most Helpful Girl
Sounds like you are trying to make positive changes in your life (good for you), This girl is messed up, and playing games, and is just going to inhibit your more in the right direction. Tell her you are moving on, and don't want any more contact. If she texts you don't respond. Block her on social media and don't look back.0
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Most Helpful Guy
Sometimes we don't always make the best choices in our lives, but learning from them is really important. It seems like you've both done a lot to each other, and hurt each other a fair bit. Some relationships are simply there so you can learn from your mistakes. I don't feel like this relationship can, or should, be recovered. Any girl who is willing to do this to a guy isn't the best person to be with. There also seems to be a personality flaw in her behavior. You can never justify wanting someone, but slinking back to your ex with photographic evidence. It's a form of mental abuse and I promise you don't want to be close to that kind of behavior. I think you know you should have walked away even before you started dating, and I applaud you on getting your life back together. But it isn't your responsibility to help her make good choices. She has to do that herself. Be with someone worthy of your time and who would never willingly hurt you.2