Most Helpful Guy
Betrayal is something that effects us on multiple levels. Recognize that the pain you are feeling is real, but it is nothing that you did. Many times when people are cheated on, they try to convince themselves that their boyfriend or girlfriend only cheated because of something they did, not the boyfriend or girlfriend. This is inaccurate thinking. When someone cheats, it is completely about them, their wants and desires. It is something that wounds us deeply, but realizing where that pain comes from really helps us move on. Their cheating wasn't about you, it was about themselves focusing on themselves. He thought about you when he was cheating and still did it, regardless of how far they went. You need to not be with this person, someone who was willing to hurt you in such a way. I've seen too many of my friends cheat and be cheated on. It is something people do, but that doesn't excuse these actions. You need to cut them off of all social media and get away. When my girlfriend and I broke up, I took a trip to visit my family in another state. Then I started to really focus on a few goals. I started going to the gym, working on a few of my books, and really focused on school. Distractions and tricks, though they seem silly, really help. And yes, you are going to think about them many times, cry about them, even ask why, but just know that you aren't alone. You have friends and family, people who care about you. Even people on this site can empathizes with you, that you deserve someone who would never do that to you. Good guys are out there who would never cheat. Find that guy who is worthy of you. I know we're supposed to be 'equal' but I always put women first, and the guy you want to be with should be on the same page, that treating his lady with utmost respect is someone you deserve. Give it time, lots of time. Time is a great thickener of things, and that's why time is so important. It helps from everything from happening at once, and right now is your time to mourn. But soon your time will come to put up your head and be stronger. There's a youtube video I really suggest you watch. It's called After Us. It's from Wong Fu. It helped me after I broke up. Take a look and I hope it helps
Most Helpful Girl
You be thankful that you are not still with the person you almost settled for. You tell yourself that the short - term pain of discovering the truth is better than the long - term pain of finding out , years later, you believed in an illusion.
Cry a river, build a bridge and get over it. When you put your trust in someone you get one of 2 results. A lesson in life or a friend for life.
Betraying you shows his true characte and it is a statement about who he is... not you. So don't allow his wrongdoing prevent you from putting your trust in someone else.