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You need to fix your issues. Maybe she did her best and needed you to show progress before she invested anymore. You're 26 years old, so she probably wants you to be more independent. Also, I can't really blame her for not wanting to be involved in the drama. Your father violently attacked the two of you. That's terrifying and I wouldn't want to be around that either. Your best bet would be to focus on yourself and getting out of your current situation. After that, you can make a better decision about whether you still want to be with her.