I was with my ex girlfirend for two years and she ended it about two weeks ago. We have had problems for a while but I didn't think the relationship wasn't fixable. She previously ended it about two months ago but then missed me a lot and we started talking again after just a week separated. I was trying my best to do better and be a better boyfriend. I'm not going to say it was back to being a perfect relationship but I recognized things that I needed to change and was making a lot of effort into changing things about myself to become a better person. We only had a couple of bad days in more than two months, but apparently that wasn't good enough. She started acting different and she told me that she wasn't happy anymore and she broke up with me. I'd be lying if I said I'm okay with it because I'm really an emotional wreck right now. I miss her so much and still love her with all of my heart. But, I'm afraid it's completely over. And, I can't get over it. I really thought she was the one for me and I never imagined life without her. I want her back in my life so badly. It's really eating at me. Any advice is greatly appreciated.
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In the two months you got back together she probably wasn't entirely feeling it anymore and tried to make it work. You put in the effort to change which is a noble thing to do, but her lack of feelings could have made her feel guilty. Hence why she started to act differently towards you. It takes two to fix a relationship and the initial break up probably wasn't entirely your fault. She probably wasn't ready to look at her flaws in the relationship and work on them so a split was the best option.
I'm gonna throw a few cliches in here so bare with me. It gets better. It's only been two weeks and time does in fact heal. A clean break with little to no contact with her is the best idea because it allows you to heal properly. It hurts, and it sucks, but it's effective.
You already realized what you did wrong in the relationship and worked at bettering yourself which is half the battle. Don't stop just because you broke up. Try to learn from it so you won't make the same mistakes in a new relationship. Focus on yourself and building yourself back up so the next girl you fall for will be an even better match for you. This girl isn't likely coming back and you need to know that's okay too. She isn't the only compatible woman out there for you, and in due time you will see that.
I'm sorry this hurts so much. But the fact that it does shows that you really did care for someone and experienced something beautiful and that's a grand part of life. Cherish the good times you had with her, and keep them in a special place. Just because you are no longer together doesn't mean that the memories have to go too. Just try not to dwell on them0
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