I still yearn for my ex. I miss him so much. When we broke up it was sudden and we went from living together for 2 years to zero communication within a day. He refused any contact. He wouldn't even communicate with me about getting his things from our house. I've never experienced such an abrupt loss that wasn't a death. It's been a year now and we still haven't had a conversation. He was able to move on quickly and found a serious girlfriend within two months which absolutely killed me. What's worse is that a mutual friend showed this to me and facebook and they just happened to be posting photos of their 9month anniversary. So they look very happy. I have been dating but am still in love with my ex. I've tried everything I can think of to stop hurting over this: Self-hypnosis, praying, talking about it with friends and family... and I don't feel like I've made much progress at all. Recently I saw him driving down the street with his new girlfriend and I pulled over and sobbed for a long time and had to call my mother like a 5 year old. I'm so tired of living like this. Tonight for the first time I've sat wondered how long this is going to last because it's comparable to hell. Why is this happening? What can I do? Why do I miss and wish for someone that does not do so for me and found happiness with someone else? Why won't it STOP hurting my feelings? I want to be free of this.
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I know this may sound like a stretch, but honestly, have you considered that maybe he's been seeing her all along? If you say you broke up a yr ago, and they've been together 9 mos.. That's barely a 2 month difference. It's hard for me to believe that he can comfortably find someone in such a short time. Plus, the cold way that he shut you out. It's so careless, almost as if he were seeing her and just wanted to cut things off with you so he can be with her. Like I said, it may be a stretch. I don't know why you broke up initially. But to be able to just shut someone out that you were supposed to love and have been with for years? There has to be a motive behind it, and I think that motive was her.
On another note, I'm sure you want some type of closure or motivation to feel better. Know this: it's ok to grieve, to hurt, to cry, but just don't let it consume you so wholly. Of course allow yourself to feel it, that's part of healing. But another major part is accepting that he has moved on, and you should too. You deserve happiness, and someone who will be better than him. He isn't worthy of all of this pain, so try to pull yourself out of it a bit.3