He broke up with me two months ago. It was a hard break up, both of us crying. He said it wasn't healthy to continuously get into meaningless fights. I agree. At the time I didn't see what I was doing and how much I was hurting him. I would always question his feelings for me. While apart I worked on the areas of concern and continue to do so.
After not talking for a month we began talking again. We decided to meet up for coffee which we ended up talking for 5 hours and he held me and kissed me on the cheek (that's all). He told me he cares about but not willing to chance what happen before to happen again, at all. He said it couldn't even be something that he'd consider until he knows I have the self-esteem I deserve and right now we can be friends, that's all he can offer right now. The next time I saw him he kissed me and held me.
We are both back at school. Me getting my masters, him his dotorate. He is very honest and would never dick me around... yet that's how I'm feeling. While we were dating he texted and called me all the time, we saw each other all the time. It's not like that at all. I'm initiating most of the texting and that's maybe once or twice a week and making plans. He said we can do something in the upcoming weeks because he doesn't know what his schedule will be like yet. I've missed him everyday. I miss how often he would contact me and how often we'd see each other. I understand we broke up but am having a really hard time not doing those things. If he still cares why wouldn't he want to contact me or see me more? It does hurt but I don't understand. If someone could break this down for me or understand his point of view let me know! Thank you!
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he's not iving a crap because u allow him. the way he's treating u is the way a lady should be treating the ex. u need to show the ex that u have confidence, and it has to be genuine confidence. stop texting plz! no more contact/ initiating dates. thats def his job, not yours! apart of having higher self esteem is not giving a crap about who does/doesnt text u. when he is ready to text u, dont text right away. wait for some hours. be like "he whats up?" he'll be like "um im confused. let me get to the bottom of this" ... keep doing this and he'll make more time for u. u can be strong. ur a woman. its ur job =D1